#Divorce Info

[divorceiswar]

Prenuptial Agreement

No one should get married without a Prenuptial Agreement in place! It doesn't matter how much or how little you have, you always have to protect yourself! You are making the biggest decision of your life to marry someone.

And second and sometimes third marriages—and the extended families that sometimes come with them—require financial and estate planning. Forty percent of new marriages include at least one spouse who was previously married. A Prenuptial agreement is especially a necessity when getting married after the first time.

There are two key issues every Prenup should address:

The first is how the assets will be divided in the event of a divorce or a death. The time to address this is before you get married. Divorce rates for second marriages, third marriages, etc. are even higher than those for first marriages. While you hope this marriage will work, you just never know. You should have at least three to six months before the wedding to work out the details and have the Prenup finalized.

The second is deciding how your personal accounts and other assets, such as real estate will be kept separate after marriage. It's crucial that you keep them separate.

Typically a Prenup will spell out what each partner is bringing to the marriage—including income, real estate, retirement savings—and whether each asset will be treated as separate or joint. Most important is that a prenup can shield one partner from any liabilities accumulated prior to the marriage, including student loans, credit card debt, and alimony and/or child support. It is very important that how to treat debt should be decided prior to the marriage and in the Prenup. In the event of a divorce, sometimes courts try to divide debt equally between the two parties. You have to be sure to protect yourself.

Any gifts given during the marriage should not be considered marital assets but should belong to the person receiving the gift.

More than one-third of adults said Prenups make smart financial sense, according to a Harris survey. “The time to plan for a divorce is not when you’re in a state of hate,” says Suzie Orman. You can’t fully protect yourself against a marital heartbreak, but at least you can protect your assets.

Be sure to have a divorce attorney write the Prenup. Just any attorney cannot know the specifics that have to go in one. It has to be done right so there are no loopholes. Unfortunately, in today's world, Prenups are being challenged in court.

[puppetmaster13u]

Prompt 227

There's not much known about Realms beings.

Which is understandable, seeing as it's called infinite for a reason. But it still causes a problem when people are trying to properly learn about something. Maybe try not to cause an interdimensional accident or war.

Something no one wishes for.

So Constantine is THIS close to laughing and screaming hysterically when a cult's summoning goes wrong and summons what he's pretty sure is a Baby Realms Being.

Which probably means Mama is on the way.

[felsicveins]

Burnt bridges

[vectorisheree]

Moon before the mold took over </3

Character on the left belongs to @n0maku!!

[sforzesco]

Crassus, Caelius, Cicero, Catiline, Conspiracy

boy howdy these four sure are something. not featured in this soup of C names, Caesar! what on earth happened here.

Plutarch, Crassus

Sallust on Crassus, Ronald Syme

Patron and Client, Father and Son in Cicero's "Pro Caelio"

Crassus' New Friends and Pompey's Return, Eve J. Parrish

Catullus and His World, T.P. Wiseman

Cicero's Catilinarians, D.H. Berry

[diokiraceo]

so I've already seen a few ships for Reca being thrown around, but have we considered

[bumblingbabooshka]

what if I screamed and cried for a hundred years . what then?

[bowl-of-fruit-loops]

hey why did bill’s ex-wife move to clivesdale? literally no one from hatchetfield would do that. people die and go missing all the time and they refuse to leave. and if they do they don’t move to fucking clivesdale

[horrorknife]

strahm to me is super german (im german and also strahm is a german name) and this is funny because he cannot hold his liquor and he also Doesn’t like beer. he is a chronic chainsmoker but he’s never smoked weed. recovering alcoholic so he hardly drinks anymore + this is why hes such a lightweight now. a blunt and a blowjob wouldnt necessarily fix him but it could put some things into motion

[heloflor]

Out of curiosity, do you have any headcanons on Cosmo’s father before he died? I think in one of your posts, you said he was kind of an enabler? I haven’t seen that in other people’s works, so I found that interesting

While I do have headcanons about his relationships with his family (so wife and sons) which I’m going to share here, I unfortunately don’t really have any ideas about more personal stuff, as in what kind of person he was, what was his job if he had one etc. Papa Cosma as I call him is a character I simply don’t care enough to put much thoughts on. I’m basically fridging this man.

That being said yeah I do have some ideas for his relationships with his family so here it is! (1.2k words below)

Starting with Mama Cosma, as you say I did mention him being an enabler. Thing is, I see the two of them as remaining married up until Papa Cosma’s death. And given the kind of person Mama Cosma is I don’t see ways for them to be “happily” married unless Papa Cosma tried to justify his wife’s behavior.

Now there could be other ways to look at it but I’m not the biggest fan of those. For example you could say Mama Cosma hid her true nature until his death but given they were possibly together for thousands of years, and since she has no issues showing who she is to everybody else, I don’t see this happening.

Likewise there’s the possibility of him being scared of her and only staying for the kids, with Mama Cosma possibility threatening him due to having the strongest magic and the means to take everything in the divorce, but this idea makes me a bit uncomfortable. Also I don’t really see why he would still accept to sleep with her enough times to have a second child if he hated her/was afraid of her.

So yeah, the way I see it Papa Cosma genuinely loved his wife and as a result had a tendency to excuse her behavior, even if he himself often had to walk on eggshells around her. He would for example say that her angry outbursts aren’t that bad, that maybe Schnozmo should make less noise if he wants to avoid getting yelled at, that she’s a sweetheart when she’s in a good mood. Basically the usual enabler stuff.

Tbh the fact Papa Cosma doesn’t realize just how bad the situation is would very likely be indicative that he didn’t grow up in the healthiest environment, so I guess you could add this to how his personal life was? Maybe he had abusive parents which led him to normalize this kind of behavior, hence why he married someone like Mama Cosma? 🤔

So overall, the relationship between the Cosma parents wasn’t exactly healthy, with Mama Cosma running the show with very limited push-back from her husband. Hell maybe Papa Cosma would draw the line at physical abuse (including using magic for physical abuse), which Mama Cosma barely uses anyways, hence why she could get away with the verbal abuse her husband didn’t call her out for. And if she did physically abuse Schnozmo, she’d do it behind Papa Cosma’s back, and if the kid says something she’d justify/downplay her actions, which her husband would buy.

Now Papa Cosma’s relationship with Schnozmo would be a bit more complicated. Thing is, I see Papa Cosma as the more involved parent and I could definitely see him as a very loving father, but also he lets his wife get the final say in a lot of things including their son being grounded for trivial reasons. The most he could do would maybe be to shorten some of those groundings, or if some of said groundings have to do with Schnozmo being forced to skip a meal, he’d still bring his son some food “in secret” (not sure how secretive it would be, maybe Mama Cosma just wouldn’t care that much about whether or not the kid eats when grounded, just as long as she doesn’t have to see his face at the moment).

So I think their relationship would be a mixed bag. Papa Cosma is the more involved and loving parent so Schnozmo would be closer to him, but at the same time he’d be frustrated by the way his father lets his mom get away with everything. Though at a younger age Schnozmo would probably blame his mom for it, thinking his dad’s just a happy idiot for not noticing anything’s wrong. But had Papa Cosma lived longer, Schnozmo probably would have still ended up acting out for attention as a teen, becoming a con artist and cutting contact with both of his parents. He was definitely more forgiving of his father’s shortcomings as a child due to seeking out any form of affection from a parental figure, but as an adult he wouldn’t let it slide.

Also writing this down is making me realize that I’m basically making Schnozmo be more like his mom, having her wit and manipulation, while Cosmo is more like his dad, having a bigger heart and being naive. Not sure how Cosmo having more in common with his dad would play out in how his mom and brother treat him though. Like this could definitely be one of the reasons why Mama Cosma is like thatTM, but I don’t know how Schnozmo would be influenced by it when interacting with Cosmo. At the very least Schnozmo would have a similar “happy idiot” mentality towards Cosmo growing up, given what we see in his episode.

Speaking of Cosmo, I feel like the main thing Papa Cosma felt about him was concern. He was not expecting an overpowered baby, and being the magically weakest member of this family didn’t help. This man was just not equipped to deal with such a powerful baby, which could explain why the one flashback we have of him in the show features both him and Mama Cosma looking after Cosmo.

On that note, Mama Cosma seems like someone who loves babies so from Cosmo’s birth she likely was the one mainly taking care of him, as in she wanted to take care of him and was being possessive about him so her husband kept his mouth shut and let her have it. That doesn’t mean Papa Cosma didn’t bond with Cosmo, he absolutely did and loved his baby, it’s just that Mama Cosma was spending more time with Cosmo, and the fact she was slightly more able to handle the kid (not by much tough) helped.

Tbh maybe during that short time between Cosmo’s birth and the fly incident, Papa Cosma was spending more time with Schnozmo since Mama Cosma was basically ignoring him to focus on her new baby, both because baby and because op magic. This could be a reason why Papa Cosma’s death impacted Schnozmo, as he felt like he lost the one adult he could rely on just as said adult was being a better parent.

But yeah, in the end Papa Cosma loved Cosmo and spent time with him whenever he could, preferably with his wife around to help with Cosmo’s unstable magic, but his time with his baby was short-lived. Had he been around longer, I feel like Mama Cosma would have been less clingy of Cosmo since she had her husband for that, especially given that Cosmo was able to put some boundaries (ditching her to get married).

I do wonder if maybe Cosmo’s childhood might have been a bit easier, if only because Papa Cosma would be better at comforting him (and meaning it) than his wife. Like Papa Cosma would have wanted to help Cosmo with his magic but unlike his wife wouldn’t see his son as the problem.

On top of that Cosmo probably wouldn’t have cut contact with his mom, if only so he can still interact with his dad. Idk I feel like once married Cosmo might try to hint to his dad that maybe staying with Mama Cosma isn’t the smartest choice. Schnozmo maybe tried to tell him as well but gave up quickly enough. Then again Cosmo can be pretty naive and not realize just how bad his mom is, and who knows maybe Mama Cosma would have been more fine with Cosmo getting married, though she’d probably still make a lot of passive-aggressive comments.

So yeah, that’s all I’ve got for Papa Cosma. Hope it’s enough!

[mohabbaat]

Did you know that Modi had a wife?????

Oh my god I just read about it and that piece of shit treated her so badly

Poor her

i think everyone knows that. he acknowledged it before his first term (so while submitting his participation for he 2014 elections). apparently he was forced into it by his parents when he was 18 and the marriage was never a "real marriage" as in it was never cosummated. he left soon after. his wife continues to live as a married woman tho cause they never divorced/annulled he marriage, he just left. she even said (in an interview around 2015) that if he calls, she will go to his oath taking ceremony. :(

[divorceiswar]

New Year’s Resolutions

Many of us start off the new year by making New Year’s resolutions.  It’s a great tradition that has gone on forever. Unfortunately, most of the "resolutions" we make we will never keep. The beginning of a new year is the perfect time to think about how we'd like to improve our lives. Don't set your goals too high, because you are setting yourself up for failure.

One of the first things you should do to start off the new year is to unfriend your ex!  Whether it is your ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend, ex-husband or ex-wife, an ex-lover, or someone who has been negative energy in your life—the old-school way of going cold turkey and cutting off all contact with that person is the best way. The effects of remaining Facebook friends with that person (or even simply keeping an eye on their activities online) can disrupt a person's ability to heal emotionally and move on with their lives. Delete them now!

Among the top ten resolutions each year are financial goals—such as getting out of debt or saving for retirement. Your financial goals should take top priority. Carrying too much debt is bad for anybody.  You should  make a concerted effort to pay off all your credit card debt. Then you should consciously try not to pull out your credit card so quickly to pay for something. Think about this:  if you had to write a check or pay cash for it, would you buy it? You would probably think twice about buying it and probably not do it.

Saving for your retirement is also very important.  The more you put in, the more you will have when you need it.  Regular investing is the key. Social Security may not be there when you need it, and it doesn’t pay that much anyway.

[nocturnal-phantoms-fandoms]

"there is so little canon info about the marauders" and yet you guys somehow managed to make fanon sirius and fanon remus a complete antithesis to their canon counterparts. they share exactly 0 traits. the venn diagram circles titled "canon sirius" and "fanon sirius" are barely touching. how?? how did it happen??

[wiisagi-maiingan]

Damn, getting copies of legal certificates is fucking expensive.

[eatingfireflies]

I want to know more about the Intelligentsia Guild because we have so little info and we only know some low ranking NPCs and Dr Ratio who seems to not even belong to any Guild school of thought and like ??

- Poseman from Penacony says the Intelligentsia Guild pays more than the IPC (wow!)

- There are different schools and factions within the Guild, just like a university wow!

- Some people think the Council of the Mundanites is one of these factions and it's even listed in the wiki, but I'm unsure because this sounds like a self deprecating joke by Dr Ratio.

Only him and Aventurine ever mention this thing in conversation and both of those times they were dissing each other (Ratio saying Aventurine suits the Council of the Mundanites like no other (i.e. you really are the most Mediocre), while Aventurine is all 'Wow the Genius from the Council of the Mundanites wants to claim my corpse? I am honoured' which tbf is probably half true but also a Genius from a Group of Mediocre people isn't really much of anything at all)

So honestly I could be wrong, but it doesn't sound like it exists as a real thing? Like if it's a movement, it sounds like the opposite of being an Aesthete or something.

- Yabuli being called the de facto controller of the Guild is a political thing, claimed by the politically savvy Xianzhou alliance.

They don't even say she's the leader, but the controller (and let's not forget the words de facto there). Which makes sense because as the IPC Head of Technology and the IPC being the main source of income for the Guild, Yabuli pretty much can decide what kind of research the Guild can afford to do.

Her actual connection to the Guild (like is she considered a Guild member and does she belong to a school) is debatable. (From what Ratio said in 1.6 she seems to be considered more IPC.)

- And once again we ponder the 'is the Intelligentsia Guild a part of the IPC?' And in my mind they're like kissing cousins. The annoying thing is Aventurine draws a line between the Guild and the IPC but Ratio doesn't (tbf Ratio probably doesn't give a fuck because it's all the same to him)

[microraptorreactor]

Constantly torn between the fact that I want to yell about my Destiny OCs and the fact that they are tied to a written work now. Like before I can post about Dogteeth I need to get anything about Dogteeth postable. THe writer's curse.